Talking to a Friend About Suicide

If someone you love seems distressed, you must reach out to them. Approximately one in five people think about suicide at some point in their lives. One of the reasons that people contemplate suicide is that they believe they are alone and have no one to talk to about their problems. Following some tips can help you have this conversation with a friend or family member.

Choose a Time When You Are Both Calm

The best time to talk about suicide is when you are both calm. Do not be afraid to use the word or open a conversation with someone you care about. If the person is already distraught, it may be time to get professional help quickly. Consider calling 988.

Find a Quiet Place

Usually, people feel more comfortable in their environment, so consider paying them a visit at home. If that is inappropriate, find somewhere else you can be alone with the individual. A quiet park or a nature trail that few people visit can also be a good place. Try to ensure that you will not be interrupted while visiting.

Open the conversation by asking the person how they are. Be a great listener and parrot back to them what you hear them saying. It is OK if you do not have answers to their problems, but ensure the person knows you will help them find solutions. Ensure that you ask them if they are having suicidal feelings.

Do Not Judge

While listening, be sure that you do not judge what the other person is feeling or thinking. Being open-minded helps the other person open up and talk to you. Be careful not to shut down a conversation with your comments when the other person shares information you disagree with.

If someone you know may be contemplating suicide, talk to them. Consider offering to help get them to help. We are here to be part of the solution to ending suicide.